They say that the only place where you find true love these days is in the gay community.
It is really the straight world that’s screwed up!
I mean, ‘the gay by choice despite having an option’ gay community and not the ‘I’m in prison so I’ll make do’ gay community. I’m talking about the awesome gay people who are so completely in love, and so absolutely sure that they’re willing to defy everything, even the so called ‘natural order’.
Why?
Because, in the straight modern world the very concept of love is way too commercialized! Let’s go back a few years. It still being a taboo, women dreamed to get married and fall in love. ‘With time you will fall in love with the man you marry’, just in case you thought he sucked. Love was about gestures, writing letters, stealing glances, defying, thinking the ‘unthinkable’ with ‘the one’. It was rare, it was valued by those who found it and loathed and deemed immoral by those who didn’t. In the end, no matter what, you were satisfied. Or you claimed you were anyway.
We on the other hand, have been flooded by definitions, gestures, social pressures, commodities, media, films, modern literature, warnings, romanticism, crime, openness, freedom (or at least we think so), expectations, a million levels and forms of what was earlier simply called love! Seriously, it is probably the one noun/verb with the maximum adjectives/adverbs!!
Now there is dating,
open dating,
multi dating,
trying it out,
trying it on,
trying it over and over,
maybe love,
yes but love,
no other option love,
liking,
really liking,
liking in thought not in action,
liking in action but not in thought,
friends with benefits,
mistress love,
bored..so hence love,
Today but not tomorrow love,
Err..maybe..lets see love,
No strings attached love,
Live ins,
Live ins sleep out,
Live out sleep ins,
I have to get married love,
But i cannot marry love,
Committal love,
Non committal love,
2 month love, 6 month love, probably for a year love,
I care but don’t LOVE love, Love,
I just want a piece of that love,
Let me show you love,
Never been laid love,
He’s rich love,
Fake love,
Lets just settle on this love,
Oh..and wait for this.. SELFLESS LOVE!
A 100 more and then finally..
TRUE love!
No wonder it’s hard to find!
Gestures are not gestures enough, they are acts to deceive. Deception is..hot. The good guy is not attractive. The bad boy does not settle down. The average guy is boring.
Pretty women want smart men who don’t want pretty women. Smart women want pretty men who are not too pretty and smart men who are smarter than them but not all the time. Smart and pretty women.. Lets just not even try and get into it.
So, the point is, that we could just make deals, draw up charts, rate, compare and just try and get the best bargain. You search for your better person. The one with the big heart? ot The one with the big car? You think/do the ‘unthinkable’ with several ‘the ones’ and either pick a the one or just keep looking for a better the one..you find your perfect match.
Some, however, genuinely fall in love. And even continue to believe that. At least till now.
The point is that, if you want true love, you should either have faith.. or you could just define your own parameters and chose your true love. You could either find your knight in shining armour, or just hire one! You could either fall in love or decide to fall in love. You could either be the so called practical or be the so called delusional.
But what you should not be if you want ‘true love’..What is the most difficult.. is to be a practical who wants to be delusional.
